ABWW Hater of the Day: Chad Ochocinco

Chad Ochocinco has three lovely black daughters but their type beauty is not what he is looking for in his VH1 reality show The Ultimate Catch. The first episode began with 85 contestants of all racial backgrounds and was whittled down to 16 by the end of the hour. Only three of these he picked were black women. One sister who made the selection is already exhibiting some of the “crazy black women’ behaviors that smear the image of all black women. If this show follows the pattern of black male dating shows that ran before it, non-black contestants not the icon of femininity or sanity that any of these men want on their arm in real life, so why so few black women cast if this is simply show business?

When called to task by New York gossip diva and talk show host Wendy Williams Ochocinco professed his desire for white and Hispanic women and actually expected applause for his post-racial preference from an audience that was populated with sisters. Since his children are older that his NFL career, why has his “preferences” gone through such a dramatic change? I wonder what the stimulus revised his idea of what constitutes a desirable woman? Ochocinco is different that the other type of black-woman-hater that has consistently rejected black women as dating and marriage prospects, I cannot read his mind, it is seems that his change of mind happened after the fame, money and glitz of his professional football career reached its peak. Is a non-black woman the ultimate accessory for a black man who has everything? What message does that send to his sable brown daughters? Are black women simply for breeding?

Ochocinco’s behavior can be traced back to the civil rights movement during the mid 1960’s. The biracial cooperation of the Freedom Rides and other projects resulted in interracial commingling that was seen a a patriarchal perk for black men, while “strong black women” were to wait out these dalliances until the black man was ready to help raise a generation of black children free from the plague of segregation. The pain of paramour rights ( the practice of southern white men forcing black women into sexually coercive relationships) may have been on the wane in the 1960’s but the shadow of that exploitation was a factor in black women’s acceptance of their brother’s new preference. Since the sixties the deindustrialization of cities, the backlash against desegregation, the War on Drugs have all contributed to the dissolution of black families and male embrace of the nihilistic thug life. These factors taken together still do not account for the rejection and dehumanization of black women that Ochocinco and supporters embrace so enthusiastically. The idea that this is an individual choice in a new enlightened race friendly America would be easier to swallow if the date on out marriage between the sexes was not so skewed. Ochocinco may tout his individual post-racial right to date whomever he chooses, but to expect that black women will support him while his actions state that we are good for breeding and not marrying is outrageously disrespectful.

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9 responses to “ABWW Hater of the Day: Chad Ochocinco”

  1. 4allthesingleladees says :

    I enjoyed this read and think that this is an issue from which many black women have an opinion. I think people are attracted to who they are attracted to; you can’t and shouldn’t force change on that because then it would be fake. But, on the other end, you’re right, it just looks bad and it seems as though our black brothers (especially celebrities like Ochocinco) simply aren’t interested in their fellow black sisters. Is it because we have a different texture of hair? Because we have curves? Because we simply will take no mess? I don’t know, but it’s certainly an area of discussion. Feel free to share your thoughts about my topics at 4allthesingleladees.wordpress.com.

    • dedgurlcingztheblooze says :

      I realize I am late to this conversation, but I disagree with something you said. I think people have biological tendencies toward mates to an extent, but that society plays a large role in constructing the beauty image. What you are surrounded by effects your preferences, and not just due to accessibility, but more along the lines of what you see more often. Take myself for example. Music used to be a really big part of my life. Depending on what I was listening to, hip hop, R&B, Rock, or Jrock, my interest in men (style, dress, and yes, race) changed. This occurred because I was deeply entrenched in those cultures, and thus their standard of sexy had an effect on my view. Yes, I could still say while in my Jrock phase, Morris Chestnut is a beautiful, beautiful male specimen, however my preference was still an Asian male.

      On the one hand forcing a change is no good, it creates animosity, but on the other hand one could say the standard forces us to adjust our tastes anyway. I think pointing out these issues is a start, but we have to figure out a way to get people to question their choices more deeply on their own. Only then will we be able to counter these assaults.

      • eshowoman says :

        I have been lazy about this blog an I am glad to get a different perspective. If you believe that you “think people have biological tendencies toward mates to an extent, but that society plays a large role in constructing the beauty image. What you are surrounded by effects your preferences, and not just due to accessibility, but more along the lines of what you see more often,” then their should not be such a wide disparity between the sexes in interracial marriage. This country is still pretty segregated black men live in communities with black women but the rate of out marriage in 2008 is 22% for black men and only 9% of black women.

        “On the one hand forcing a change is no good, it creates animosity” It is ironic that as an Asian woman (who are stereotyped as submissive) would say that. Black women are seen as combative, aggressive and angry no matter what we do.

  2. eshowoman says :

    I question why after having four children with two black women has his so called preference changed to exclude women who look like them? I think that some black men are entranced with the ideal of white female beauty above all others. A concept that has been promulgated for centuries, and they are so inured by idea of finally owning that ideal that they cannot look at women who look like themselves and see beauty.

  3. OhPuhleezeee says :

    Im not mad that he only picked 3 Black Women. I think a lot of people are fighting the wrong fight. Why should we be offended that he only picked 3 black women to be on a show about a bunch of desperate women fighting and whoring themselves out to be the fake jump-off of one man? If they had a show about a pimp making his prostitutes battle it out to be his bottom bitch, this show would be no less degrading to women. This is not a show any respectable woman, of any color, should want to be on and he is not a man that any respectable Black woman should want to be with. He is not a prize. Thank goodness he only picked 3 Black women instead of us having to watch 17 Black women degrade themselves for this man.

  4. eshowoman says :

    Actually I was not writing about the show, per se. I was writing about how his “preferences” have changed, what that says about his view black women and what impact it would have on his children who can never be seen as beautiful to daddy because of his so called “preferences.”

  5. dedgurlcingztheblooze says :

    eshowoman :
    I have been lazy about this blog an I am glad to get a different perspective. If you believe that you “think people have biological tendencies toward mates to an extent, but that society plays a large role in constructing the beauty image. What you are surrounded by effects your preferences, and not just due to accessibility, but more along the lines of what you see more often,” then their should not be such a wide disparity between the sexes in interracial marriage. This country is still pretty segregated black men live in communities with black women but the rate of out marriage in 2008 is 22% for black men and only 9% of black women.
    “On the one hand forcing a change is no good, it creates animosity” It is ironic that as an Asian woman (who are stereotyped as submissive) would say that. Black women are seen as combative, aggressive and angry no matter what we do.

    When I say what one sees and is surrounded by, I’m talking about what one immerses oneself in, and this goes beyond direct interaction (hence my personal example, I was into Jrock, but lived in the hood). It isn’t just about who you are around, but what you see, what surrounds your interests. The media constructs the image, so too the society, and that is everywhere. On bill boards, magazines, music, T.V. everywhere. The media says that black women are not beautiful, sexy, desirable (save for a few who largely sport European features). Black men on the other hand are attractive, their natural characteristics desirable and black media seems much more accepting of a black man with a nonblack woman than the reverse. This plays heavily into the construction. I think this is one of the reason why the numbers for black women dating interracially is so much lower. There seems to be no arena in the U.S. in which the black woman is the standard of beauty.

    I am not saying that it is about who these guys grew up with, but what image is constantly in their face regarding what is beautiful. I don’t think it is just about liking what we like. I think it is about being persuaded to like what is put on a pedestal, so to speak.

    Did that help to clarify my position? Because I believe you and I actually agree.

  6. eshowoman says :

    We do agree. A few years ago I saw a MTV documentary about a Chinese woman who had plastic surgery to get her eyes widened. I was aghast! Even though Asian women are higher on the desirability scale they still go through pain similar to ours. It is more evidence that the cult of white beauty is still alive and well. I have casually dated Asian men and I think they are fine!

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