ABWW Hater of the Day: Black Women’s Interracial Relationship Circle

Many of the comments about the percentage of educated black women who are unmarried suggest that black women open up to non-black men. Even though the statistics clearly show that non-white men are not dating or marrying black women at any where near the rate black men are out marrying, it is posed this statistic is simply black woman’s fault. Sure there are black women who will only date black men, but many are beginning to look beyond color. Some of you who are exploring, PLEASE stay away from Black Women’s Interracial Relationship Circle! On first glance it looks like you may get some tips on interracial dating, but the site is really about bashing black men and the women who love them. The blog is carefully monitored by it’s creator Halima who must have had some serious daddy issues. If you make a comment that doesn’t support the idea that white men are the be all and end all of black woman’s problems you will be call a pan-Africanist (which makes no sense because pan-Africanism is a political movement and has nothing to do with gender) and a brain dead follower of black men. ABWW gives the smackdown to anyone who puts down black women even if it is other black women. This women is so psychotic in her need to defend her marriage to a white man that she will not publish anything that supports the fact that there are god black men out there. She will not publish your post, but will insultingly comment on your post without giving you a chance to defend yourself. If you have a son, cousin, brother who is doing is right she will obsessively use you as an example how black women contribute to making black men the demons they are. So if you are thinking about dating out, bon chance, but avoid the sites that look like they may help you but are really into black women hateration.

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18 responses to “ABWW Hater of the Day: Black Women’s Interracial Relationship Circle”

  1. La Reyna says :

    To Eshowoman,

    Why is it that when some Black women prefer to date/marry Black men, hypocritical white people and some self-hating Black person attack us for doing so? Why is that decision construed by people ignorant of Black women’s history as “reverse discrimination?” That’s what gets me under my skin are those used to privilege have the NERVE to get angry at some Black women for not wanting to choose nonblack men.

    Jill Scott is concerned about the alarming rise in IR dating among Black men and white people have the nerve to call her a racist?

    The last I checked is that 97% of whites marry other whites. Black women don’t criticize other races for marrying their own. I sense a double standard and so do some of my Sistas.

    Here’s an article for thought:

    http://thebeautifulstruggler.com/2010/02/i-wont-and-you-cant-make-me.html

    What are your thoughts about the article?

    La Reyna

  2. eshowoman says :

    I feel you LaRenya. My story is a little different. All my long term relationships have been with black men, but I have dated non-black men casually. If I had remained back East who knows who I would have ended up with. There are several geographical areas of this country that black-woman-hating zones and I live smack in the middle of one. My issue is with the fact it seems easier to label black women as demons instead of taking a long look at how African American relationships got this way. If it was really nothing but preference and free choice, why are this the gap between outmarriage between black men and black women would not be so cavernous. In fact it should be the other way since more black women are educated. Black women should have a higher out-marriage rate because we are in close contact with white men at college and work. The pattern is the same in England and Canada so anybody who knows a thing about statistics knows that there is something seriously wrong.

    How can we ALL be loud, bitter, fat, “ghetto” (whatever the hell that means),baby machines, who are in debt and emasculating when we are running companies and universities,being artists,in Congress and still fighting for civil rights around the world? We are busy being mothers, aunts, grandmothers, sisters to the black men who still value us and are raising the children of those who don’t? How can men who look like me be so callous, irresponsible and shallow? And how can those who are not stay so damn quiet???

  3. Menelik Charles says :

    @ Esho,

    I’m not sure much of what you wrote above has anything to do with sista La Reyna’s post. I mean, the questions you asked her, for example, are not surely aimed at her, are they? I feels more like a rant than an inquiry.

    I think if people are looking for justice then they have to accept their part in the injustice of the situation they speak of or rage against. I mean by this that Black women are not angels (we all know how evil, criminal etc Black men are, right?) and so to erase every observation Black men (of all types) make of them will ultimately not bring about what you claim to desire. Black men will simply walk away and not look back. Black women must submit…to the truth. Only then will they be free…and by extension all Black people.

    Menelik Charles
    London England

  4. Nicholas Stix says :

    @eshowoman:You spent 328 words ranting against a blogger, but didn’t have the basic decency to link to her. Not only does that make you guilty of violating possibly the first rule of netiquette, but casts a giant shadow on your credibility. Someone who has a legitimate beef with a blogger does not fear others measuring her criticisms against her target’s words.

    I do not need to read your target, however, to know that you are spouting nonsense, when you assert that “pan-Africanis[m] (… makes no sense because pan-Africanism is a political movement and has nothing to do with gender)…” Racial segregation of the sexes is a pillar of pan-Africanism.

    eshowoman: Do you support white women’s right to date and marry only white men? If not, you are a racist, pure and simple. If you do support white women’s right to limit themselves to white men, you need to link to writers whom you criticize, and work on your logic.

  5. eshowoman says :


    Racial segregation of the sexes is a pillar of pan-Africanism.”
    References please, you ignorant inbred meth snorter? Where did you get such ridiculous claptrap? Name one Pan-Africanist figure who posed this ideology? You don’t know jack about what you are talking about, do some research you silly wingnut.

    I have been that crazy hate filled den of white-boy-only loving she wolves. Her brand of black-women-hateration is almost as bad as the idiocy I just saw on your blog. She never bothered to post my comments and then AS I SAID IN THE BLOG, would post her attack against me with no context. Nothing any of those insane black-woman-self- hating broads have to say would be worth linking to that brand of nonsense. If you want to go there use this magic thing called Google. AND NEVER PRESUME TO LECTURE A BLACK WOMAN ABOUT LOVE AGAIN!!!!!

  6. Menelik Charles says :

    @Esho,

    I absolutely co-sign what you say above 100%

    Menelik

  7. eshowoman says :

    Mr. Charles,

    I was not posing questions based on what LaRayna said I was posing my own questions. I did say my view was a bit different. Let me repeat I have dated outside the race and have no problem with it but my long term relationships have with black men.

    “to accept their part in the injustice of the situation they speak of or rage against”
    And what EXACTLY is that “part?”

    “…..make of them will ultimately not bring about what you claim to desire”
    You know what I desire, I don’t think so.

    “Black men will simply walk away and not look back.”
    Those men can walk away.

    “Black women must submit…to the truth. Only then will they be free…and by extension all Black people.”
    HUH???? WTF??? You agree that that this tea partier should not lecture me, but you tell me I should submit, Negro Please!

  8. Menelik Charles says :

    Eshowoman said:

    Mr Charles,

    I was not posing questions based on what La Reyna said I was posing my own questions.

    Menelik replies:

    that was not all-too clear, especially as some of the questions seemed hostile and rhetorical.

    Menelik said:

    I think if people are looking for justice then they have to accept their part in the injustice of the situation they speak of or rage against.

    Eshowoman asked:

    And what EXACTLY is that “part?”

    Menelik replies:

    I would guess that my answer would not interest you since as people we Black men and women are party to our own oppression as this very blog makes explicitly clear! it doesn’t help that one side plays the passive recipient of other people’s oppressive inclinations.

    Menelik said:

    Black women are not angels (we all know how evil, criminal etc Black men are, right?) and so to erase every observation Black men (of all types) make of them will ultimately not bring about what you claim to desire. Black men will simply walk away and not look back. Black women must submit…to the truth.

    Eshowoman replied:

    you tell me to submit? Negro please!

    Menelik replies

    this isn’t a very subtle or honest response, is it? Black women must submit…to the truth, is what I wrote. Why omit the last part?????

    Menelik Charles
    London England

  9. Nicholas Stix says :

    @eshowoman
    July 16, 2010 at 11:17 pm | #5
    Stix: ”Racial segregation of the sexes is a pillar of pan-Africanism.”
    eshowoman: “References please, you ignorant inbred meth snorter? Where did you get such ridiculous claptrap? Name one Pan-Africanist figure who posed this ideology? You don’t know jack about what you are talking about, do some research you silly wingnut….
    “If you want to go there use this magic thing called Google. AND NEVER PRESUME TO LECTURE A BLACK WOMAN ABOUT LOVE AGAIN!!!!!”

    Stix: I had already established that you lack the minimum decency to function on the Net, and that you have no credibility. I also asked you a simple question, which your refusal to answer left no doubt that you are a racist.

    But that wasn’t enough for you. Apparently, you had to emphasize your racism, to the point of unwittingly being a clown. Your racism is so vicious that you think it’s perfectly righteous to call a white who criticizes you an “ignorant inbred meth snorter.” (If you weren’t such a racist ignoramus, you’d know that the image of whites being addicted to, or dealing in meth is itself a racist myth. Blacks have for some time been busy taking over the meth trade.)

    You have such a welfare mentality that you think it’s acceptable to demand that I research your baselesss rant on Google, at the same time that you demand that I waste time hunting down references for moronic, racist, lying trash like you?

    Finally, Miss All Caps, assuming that you really are a black woman, and not a non-black who, on a lark, created the most shamelessly racist, black female Net persona he could come up with, of course I will lecture you. You—and your co-signers—need to be lectured every day of your pathetic, moronic, lying, racist life.

  10. anona says :

    You people are STILL complaining and whining? GET A LIFE.

    People can date and marry whoever they damn well want to marry!

    You say the “bitter black woman” is just a stereotype, clearly it is NOT, it is the truth and YOU are proof of this!

    If you weren’t such a loser you would have a relationship of your own and you wouldn’t spend your time dictating other people’s lives.

    I wonder if the white people you work with know how angry and racist you are towards them?
    Somebody should find out where you work and get you fired!

    I bet your boss would be very upset to see everything you have written here!

    I think that would be an interesting experiment, hire a private investigator to find out where all of these racist blacks like you online work,
    then contact their employers to expose their racist rants against white people!

    I’m sure you would get fired, who wants to work with an “Angry black woman”? LOL

    • eshowoman says :

      ” You people are STILL complaining and whining” ““bitter black woman” is just a stereotype, clearly it is NOT,” “I wonder if the white people you work with know how angry and racist you are towards them?” “hire a private investigator to find out where all of these racist blacks like you online work”

      My, my, my. Must have really hit a sensitive spot with you. Anona is following in the footsteps of anti-black ignorance we have recently seen from the likes of Andrew Breitbart and Mike Williams. She or he needs to find racism in black folks to support their own insecurities around white female privilege. It is nice to finally see a poster go beyond the platitudes about love and interracial relationships and reveal his or her hatred of black women. Kudos to you Anona for letting your anti-black bias and ignorance flag fly.

  11. anona says :

    I agree with you 100% Nicholas!

    The only way to deal with racist blacks like this is to deal with them in the REAL WORLD level.

    Report their racist blogs against white people to their employers.

    That will do the trick! It will expose them and get them fired! No more internet bill being paid and no more loudmouth black blogs with racism against whites.

  12. Herneith says :

    @nicholas stixx:

    No need for such ad hominem attacks now. Why aren’t you on Stormfront confronting those rabid racists? Why aren’t you calling them out for comparing black folk to monkeys? How about the eminent site chimp.com? Instead you come to this woman’s bog accusing her of racism(if so is mild in comparison to these other ‘blogs), not to mention the plethora of white racists blogs out there. White supremacy is inherent in North American Society. Why not go after these folk? I know, it is easier to to so to a ‘lowly cullud woman’ thereby putting her in her place! Blow it out your hole clown. Hows that for being racist?

    • eshowoman says :

      There are plenty of folks fighting the good fight against white supremacist groups. I never accused her of
      racism. The fact that she condemns all black men without discretion, attacks black women who stand with them while exalting white men is a symptom her own psychological issues and denies that we still live in a system where white privilege is the norm.

  13. Luca De Beau says :

    Halima is trying to sell books. She is the worse kind, a friend of mine knows her personally and talks about how she hates black men…simply outright hate black men.

    • Menelik Charles says :

      Luca,

      then why dont you expose Halima and see whether her lifestyle matches up with the fantasy she presents online? You would be doing a public service if you did. For example, I live in the UK. Does she? If so, where? Much of the scenarios she comes up with re London and Black relationships are outright lies.

      Is this woman married? Any kids? What work does she do? Luca, speak up, sister!

    • Menelik Charles says :

      PS and what do u know of her family history? Did she grow up with her father? Are there issues with men? Is she conventionally attractive?

  14. eshowoman says :

    @Melenik Charles. What she looks like has nothing to do with any of this. On her block she states that she grew up in an abusive NOI/Black Nationalist home. That probably has a lot to do with her obsessions.

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